We’ve all encountered a bitch at least once in our lives. As harsh as the description “bitch,” sounds, you can’t deny that for some people, it’s quite an accurate label.

You know the kind: bullies, evil dictators, and Type A personality mixed with eccentricities. 

Until recently, I had no idea how to deal with these difficult people. I literally took it personally, acted on emotions and took it to heart. I learned very recently how to handle these people in a firm, mature way and most importantly, how to be at peace with yourself.

Here are some tips I’ve put together just from years of hearing advice and also learning on my own.

1. Silence is truly the best weapon.

Sometimes being quiet is stronger than a comeback. If you do it in an assertive way, it can work. And yes there are different ways of being silent. You can be silent in a victimized way which looks like you have no comeback, or you can be silent in a strong assertive way …kind of like a manager staring silently at an employee who just made a stupid mistake. It’s all in your demeanor.

Silence can also save you from acting on emotions and saying something weak and defensive. Most of the time, it’s the easiest, quickest option and saves yourself from embarrassment if you do accidentally say the wrong thing.

2. Stand your ground. 

Don’t let them guilt-trip you. Just tell yourself: It’s not your fault and you didn’t do anything wrong. Keep this thought in the back of your head. If you’re a genuinely good person and you didn’t do any wrongdoings intentionally, how can anybody blame you? It’s not your intent to hurt anybody and guess what: All humans make mistakes. So there’s no reason for someone to hold it against you.

If you feel even an ounce of guilt, you will always find yourself catering to this person. But always think of yourself in a confident manner and know that you are a good person.

3. Don’t try to change them. 

Never expect people to do a 180. Focusing all your energy on their negatives only causes more internal frustration if it doesn’t work. People don’t change easily and it’s not your duty to help them. The best thing to do for yourself is know how they are and work on the way you interpret everything. Don’t dwell on changing their ways; just concentrate on your reactions and perceptions. They are not worth your time and energy, but your sanity is!

4. Erase them from your memory. 

For most people, this is probably the hardest step. But it can be done, trust me. New hobbies and new interests can take your mind off of many things. There are so many opportunities available nowadays. If writing is your thing, you could maybe start a blog or keep a private journal. You can join a club, take up a sport, or even play games online. I even know someone that likes to tidy up the house and clean to keep her mind off things. It can be as simple as that! Keeping good thoughts in your mind and having good people around you will make a difference!

5. Abandon Awkwardness. 

Some people might find themselves to be shyer or more quiet around the person. But don’t stray away from them. Face your fears. Act like there’s nothing absolutely wrong and treat them as if nothing they do or say bothers you. The more you practice this, the more stronger your mentality will be and before you know it, you’ll start to believe it! Trust me, this little tip works! 

Avoiding them only causes you stress and gives them more leeway to continue what they’re doing. You want them to see you’re strong and can maturely handle anything that comes your way. You’re not a kid and you shouldn’t have to deal with such a childish situation.

6. Be an actor! 

It honestly helps to take yourself outside the situation and observe from a third-person point of view. Just step outside of yourself and pretend you’re watching the whole thing as if it’s one of your favorite sitcoms. You can see the situation under a funny light. Why is this person yelling at you when it doesn’t concern them? What a nosey jerk! It helps when you pretend you’re watching it happen to someone else because you won’t be as sensitive and you’ll be able to see how silly and minor the whole thing is.

Follow these tips and you’ll feel better in no time!

xoxo Hunni

Categories : Advice Column, OH HELL NO! (My Rants)