Okay so we all know the saying, “Don’t Judge A Book By It’s Cover.” Well, we’re all only human and it’s natural to judge and stereotype. I don’t live under a rock; I know it’s human nature. It’s a little different when it’s happening to you constantly. 

So if I had a dollar for every time someone has misjudged me, I would be a millionaire. 

No joke. I would say over 90% of my friends (females only) have said that my image is bitchy without it being intentional. Not my facial expression or my gestures, but literally just by my physical appearance alone.  I‘ve even had people who I’ve never met before come up to me and tell me that too. Why is it that people are so quick to judge? And how can a person’s image appear bitchy? I had a discussion with my roommate the other day about this. We were trying to figure it out…

Could it be the way I put on my makeup? The fact that I’m Asian and have blondish highlights in my hair? The fact that I’m not afraid to show some skin? Or maybe it’s because I just don’t have a friendly face when I’m not smiling? 

Well who the hell goes around with a forced grin on their face anyways? That’s a little creepy if you ask me. 

I have experienced girl drama like you wouldn’t believe and what’s even worse is I know girls who have rarely experienced drama. But then a guy friend tells me:  Some girls just have that image that people associate with snobs. It could be a certain style they’re sporting or a certain overall image they possess. Well whatever…I dress the way I want to dress and I put however much makeup I want to put and you know something? I am in no way a snobby bitch whatsoever…my roommates can back me up on that one. In fact, I think I’m a little too nice.

A true bitch would embrace the fact that she looks like a bitch. But a shy person would be offended and shocked. I admit, I used to be hurt when people would tell me I look like a shallow bitch. I was hurt and ashamed of my face. I don’t want a horrible stereotype written all over me. I want people to give me a chance and give me the benefit of the doubt, like I do with other people.

Is it possible that I’m one of the rare species left in the world that doesn’t judge people and write them out?

Nowadays, I do embrace my image. Not because I’m proud of looking like a bitch but because, for every single friend who has told me I have a “bitchy look,” the statement is immediately followed by,

“But surprisingly, you’re one of the nicest people I’ve ever met.”

And this tells me two things.

1) I may have an unfriendly appearance but once people meet me, their expectations are reversed. This means people have learned not to judge others who look a certain way. Just because a girl is wearing glasses and braces, doesn’t mean she’s a nerd. You have to look deeper and give people a chance. A lot of my friends feel they’ve learned valuable lessons after realizing this.

2) I am a genuinely nice person and if people can look past the image and take the moment to get to know me, then they are worth being friends with. Why would I waste my time on people who just take one look at me and assume? Maybe I’m glad I was blessed with this armed weapon since I don’t have to waste my time with such close-minded people.

I’ve known a few people who have said that if they followed their instincts and completely dismissed someone, they would’ve missed out on knowing a great person. You only know a few great people in your life and the more chances you take, the more great friends you make. It’s not guaranteed that you’ll find friends each time you take a shot.

But the more you shut people out, the less chances you have of finding truly amazing people that might impact your life.

xoxo Hunni

Categories : OH HELL NO! (My Rants), Personal